I am still growing.....

Sir Edmund Hillary was the first man to climb Mount Everest.On May 29, 1953 he scaled the highest mountain then known to man-29,000 feet straight up. He was knighted for his efforts. He even made American Express card commercials because of it! However, until we read his book, High Adventure, we don't understand that Hillary had to grow into this success.

You see, in 1952 he attempted to climb Mount Everest, but failed. A few weeks later a group in England asked him to address its members.Hillary walked on stage to a thunderous applause. The audience was recognizing an attempt at greatness, but Edmund Hillary saw himself as a failure. He moved away from the microphone and walked to the edge of the platform.

He made a fist and pointed at a picture of the mountain.He said in a loud voice,

"Mount Everest, you beat me the first time,but I'll beat you the next time because you've grown all you are going to grow... but I'm still growing!" This is the attitude that has made most of the world renowned achievers to reach their goal in life!

The attitude of “ learning & growing” every moment in life!

Got the above write up as a forward from my friend.. Yes the day the defeat defeats us , we would stop growing.

Loyalty...

"Why does it happen to me?", wondered ari, a software engineer by profession. She was devastated because nothing was happening in her life that could kindle a ray of hope. She has been waiting since long to reap the fruits but nothing happened yet.

"Ari, is a person who can be trusted with any kind of work. Whatever may be the situation but she will come out in colours", were the words of the managers under whom she worked. She was hard working at the sametime was too loyal to her work. But this never reflected in her career growth. She was fed up.

She decided one day that she will not work anymore till she gets what she wants. She spent 2 days with no productivity. "Why am I doing this?" was the only question she had in her mind. She could not sleep peacefully, but she decided whatever it is she will not work.

Next day she comes to the office, with a call from her manager immediately. "Ari we are in trouble, can you please look into it." The instant answer was 'Yes!!" . She starts the work..

This is the problem with her. She is too loyal to her work. Too loyal.....Nobody can stop her from doing the work,not even the humiliation, not even the depression..

Friend and a Covalent Bond

When you desperately need a shoulder, if you have a person to lean on then that makes the person special and he/she is called a 'Friend'.

Friends are those whom we choose and some are made for us.I have tried to discover a friend in so many people but it always ended as a one way affair. At last I have got some whom I can proudly say 'These are my friends'.

A friend to me should be like a covalent bond. For non chemistry guys let me give some intro on bonds:

Covalent bond: Bond in which one or more pairs of electrons are shared by two atoms.
Ionic bond: Bond in which one or more electrons from one atom are removed and attached to another atom, resulting in positive and negative ions which attract each other.

As we see above I feel friendship is all about sharing. So many times I have ended up having people who never led me an ear when i wanted to share something. For me they can never be friends.

For me a friend is who listens to what you tell, who is there for you even if you are far,who understands you even if you do not utter a word.

Most of all he/she is a person who has the same frequency as yours. I have got few who actually match these criteria.

Thanks to infy which gave me something which I can cherish all through out my life. So for those who say that you are friends of someone, just ask a question to yourself if you were there for a person when they needed you, or atleast you listened to them when they wanted to share something.

Its very easy to say I am his/her friend but very hard to put it in action.

Some books that make you question

I should have had posted this post in another blog of mine But felt it suited here more

The books 'The Fountainhead' and 'Atlas Shrugged' can be told as the masterpieces. The author Ayn Rand simplifies life in her the characters. And believe me you will find yourself one among them. At least, i found myself and realised what I was.

The book made me question myself..'If I am taking my life in the correct path?'.

Especially the characters Howard Roark in the book impressed me a lot. And now the character Dagny Taggart in 'Atlas Shrugged'. These characters have a charisma which mesmerizes everyone.

Yeah the books made me take some decisions that changed the way my life was progressing.As i read them, i always want to finish it but at the same time, i am scared if it gets over soon.

Keep the Child in You Alive

Today is Nov 14,better known as Children's day. My inbox had quite a number of mails with the subject 'Happy Children's day'. One of the mails read 'Keep the child in you alive'.
As i look back i don't know if the child in me is still alive or if I have buried it somewhere.
We are so careful in our career that we no longer wish to do what we like.
We look everything in a mature perspective. It is so mature that we try to seek the profit in whatever we do.
We no longer get ourselves indulged in something which is our hobby, simple reason is we do not have time.
We no longer feel happy when someone else wins in the competition.
We no longer like to attend a cousin's marriage just because it is far and I would have to take a
leave, which could be used for a trip with friends otherwise.
Sigh.. I sometimes want to dance in the rain but I don't thinking what would be people's reaction.
I like to do what I want but never bring that to action.
I know that somewhere there is a child in me , the child is just hidden behind the adult. The day this adult says she is fed up, the child would come out.
Yeah I agree that just being the child in this world cannot help you. But keeping the child alive in you will make a difference. Try waking up the child.

Rain Rain Go Away.................

The lines of the rhyme, we usually sang in our childhood flashed into my mind on friday. All of a sudden my mind began to sing 'Rain Rain go away, come again another day, ...'I need to reach bus stand...'.

Yeah yeah, it was all because of my over confidence that I would make to the bus well in advance made me suffer so much. As usual I left the office at 7(My bus was at 9.15 : ), and i think the whole world conspired against me that day. there was a huge traffic pile up and i reached my place at 8.00. To add on it was raining like hell.

Took the bag, wore the jacket and ran. Hmm it was not difficult to run in the rain, The culprit were the spectacles, i could not see any thing , it was a horror experience crossing the road.huh..if I had the wiper on my spects. : ( By the time I reached the bus stop, i was completely drenched,to my fate, the bus shelter was also full, i could not even wait under the shelter..Took an auto, did not even screamed at the guy for asking 1.5, because i needed the auto badly.

The situation was worsened when the auto stopped due to the jam. It was not because I did not have time, but that I was hungry and the guy had stopped near the motel, where ppl were gorging on hot mirchis and hot hot tea. :( I controlled myself and just turned the other way.

The auto started and it was all smooth.Hmm... i thought now i am safe. But as they say 'picture abhi baaki hai dost', the road near the bus stand was one way an dthe auto guy asked me to get down in the other end, as he could not go further. I had no way other than giving away 50/- and walk all the way.it was still raining heavily.

I reached the bus stand. And realised that the buses are not standing in the usual designated platforms. No space to stand, did not know where 25c platform was and it was 9.05. Whom so ever I asked, there was a nod saying 'They do not know'. I just felt like sinking, sorry i could not even do that, it was occupied to its capacity. And then cam ethe maseeha and suggested me to the way cautioning he was not SURE!!!

I had to take chance and just went in that direction, my bus had started and thanks to the jam, which allowed me to get my place. The seat# was 47 and it was the last seat. Cool... I am completely wet, last seat, hungry to core. what else can I ask for!!!

The bus started at 9.20 and just after 5 minutes, I see that my prayers were answered, The Rain had stopped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A suggestion to the Almighty!!!

Sometimes a long walk on a less noisy path while it is drizzling can make you do strange things. And one such walk made me suggest the almighty to change his design, which will make the object's(WE) life happy, until they are garbage collected. I am sorry for speaking in language of java.

I don't know since how long, but I always had a questing lingering in my mind. 'Why Me ?' or 'Why him/her?'. And never did I get any answers for that, the only answer was 'Its all because of the sins he has carry forwarded from his previous Janma'. I really do not understand this answer. Why should a person be punished for something which he did long long back and that too; not in this lifetime of his.

Whey can't the almighty make the person suffer for his sins in the same janma. Let the person realise that if he is bad, he is sure to get the bad results. At least this will avoid some crime in this world.

So 'Oh God these are my suggestions:'

- Firstly let me prove that your design is not good. As per your design you carry forward a man's sins to his next life. The repercussions are as follows:

1. The man would never realise that because of the sins in his last life, he is having a disastrous life now. Even if he realises very little is what he can do to undo his sins.
2. And in spite of being good now, if he is having bad life. You are demotivating your objects of being good. And moreover we are all men and its difficult to be saints.
3. Why do you think we should be devoid of the success we deserve just because I did something long long back.
4. An I think majority is with me. Lets face for what we do here itself and let us not carry forward the same.
5. At least with the fear of having bad life mite make us do good. Let me tell you one thing, nobody is scared of having bad life in the next janma, but at least there will be some fear if the results are within his/her life span.

Hmm that's it from my side. You might be having deferring points as well. Please let me know the same through one of your objects.