I am still growing.....

Sir Edmund Hillary was the first man to climb Mount Everest.On May 29, 1953 he scaled the highest mountain then known to man-29,000 feet straight up. He was knighted for his efforts. He even made American Express card commercials because of it! However, until we read his book, High Adventure, we don't understand that Hillary had to grow into this success.

You see, in 1952 he attempted to climb Mount Everest, but failed. A few weeks later a group in England asked him to address its members.Hillary walked on stage to a thunderous applause. The audience was recognizing an attempt at greatness, but Edmund Hillary saw himself as a failure. He moved away from the microphone and walked to the edge of the platform.

He made a fist and pointed at a picture of the mountain.He said in a loud voice,

"Mount Everest, you beat me the first time,but I'll beat you the next time because you've grown all you are going to grow... but I'm still growing!" This is the attitude that has made most of the world renowned achievers to reach their goal in life!

The attitude of “ learning & growing” every moment in life!

Got the above write up as a forward from my friend.. Yes the day the defeat defeats us , we would stop growing.

Loyalty...

"Why does it happen to me?", wondered ari, a software engineer by profession. She was devastated because nothing was happening in her life that could kindle a ray of hope. She has been waiting since long to reap the fruits but nothing happened yet.

"Ari, is a person who can be trusted with any kind of work. Whatever may be the situation but she will come out in colours", were the words of the managers under whom she worked. She was hard working at the sametime was too loyal to her work. But this never reflected in her career growth. She was fed up.

She decided one day that she will not work anymore till she gets what she wants. She spent 2 days with no productivity. "Why am I doing this?" was the only question she had in her mind. She could not sleep peacefully, but she decided whatever it is she will not work.

Next day she comes to the office, with a call from her manager immediately. "Ari we are in trouble, can you please look into it." The instant answer was 'Yes!!" . She starts the work..

This is the problem with her. She is too loyal to her work. Too loyal.....Nobody can stop her from doing the work,not even the humiliation, not even the depression..

Friend and a Covalent Bond

When you desperately need a shoulder, if you have a person to lean on then that makes the person special and he/she is called a 'Friend'.

Friends are those whom we choose and some are made for us.I have tried to discover a friend in so many people but it always ended as a one way affair. At last I have got some whom I can proudly say 'These are my friends'.

A friend to me should be like a covalent bond. For non chemistry guys let me give some intro on bonds:

Covalent bond: Bond in which one or more pairs of electrons are shared by two atoms.
Ionic bond: Bond in which one or more electrons from one atom are removed and attached to another atom, resulting in positive and negative ions which attract each other.

As we see above I feel friendship is all about sharing. So many times I have ended up having people who never led me an ear when i wanted to share something. For me they can never be friends.

For me a friend is who listens to what you tell, who is there for you even if you are far,who understands you even if you do not utter a word.

Most of all he/she is a person who has the same frequency as yours. I have got few who actually match these criteria.

Thanks to infy which gave me something which I can cherish all through out my life. So for those who say that you are friends of someone, just ask a question to yourself if you were there for a person when they needed you, or atleast you listened to them when they wanted to share something.

Its very easy to say I am his/her friend but very hard to put it in action.

Some books that make you question

I should have had posted this post in another blog of mine But felt it suited here more

The books 'The Fountainhead' and 'Atlas Shrugged' can be told as the masterpieces. The author Ayn Rand simplifies life in her the characters. And believe me you will find yourself one among them. At least, i found myself and realised what I was.

The book made me question myself..'If I am taking my life in the correct path?'.

Especially the characters Howard Roark in the book impressed me a lot. And now the character Dagny Taggart in 'Atlas Shrugged'. These characters have a charisma which mesmerizes everyone.

Yeah the books made me take some decisions that changed the way my life was progressing.As i read them, i always want to finish it but at the same time, i am scared if it gets over soon.

Keep the Child in You Alive

Today is Nov 14,better known as Children's day. My inbox had quite a number of mails with the subject 'Happy Children's day'. One of the mails read 'Keep the child in you alive'.
As i look back i don't know if the child in me is still alive or if I have buried it somewhere.
We are so careful in our career that we no longer wish to do what we like.
We look everything in a mature perspective. It is so mature that we try to seek the profit in whatever we do.
We no longer get ourselves indulged in something which is our hobby, simple reason is we do not have time.
We no longer feel happy when someone else wins in the competition.
We no longer like to attend a cousin's marriage just because it is far and I would have to take a
leave, which could be used for a trip with friends otherwise.
Sigh.. I sometimes want to dance in the rain but I don't thinking what would be people's reaction.
I like to do what I want but never bring that to action.
I know that somewhere there is a child in me , the child is just hidden behind the adult. The day this adult says she is fed up, the child would come out.
Yeah I agree that just being the child in this world cannot help you. But keeping the child alive in you will make a difference. Try waking up the child.